Build a life you never run away from

Build a life you never run away from:

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Build a life you never run away from.

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A life you love.

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But not just some of it.

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All of it.

All the components.

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Family.

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Friends.

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Work.

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Play.

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Everything.

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Is it possible in today’s day and age?

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Most people will say no.

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It’s too hard.

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It’s too difficult.

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But I’m not so sure.

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How do you spend your time?

How do you make decisions?

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What decisions have you made?

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Have you made good ones or bad ones?

Are you active?

Do you stay physically fit?

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How is your family life?

How is your relationship with your partner?

How are your relationships with your friends?

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Do you like your job?

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Do you enjoy what you’re doing?

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Do you wake up excited to go to work every day?

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For most people, the answers to these questions are not positive.

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They are bad.

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They don’t like what they do.

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They don’t like the people around them.

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They don’t have a good relationship with their friends and family.

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Some might have some of these.

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But some might have none.

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So they wake up angry.

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And bitter.

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Let me tell you.

Those are the people who are going to die sad and alone.

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They are going to die early.

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They are going to die way before they should have.

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They don’t like their life.

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And instead of changing it, they play the victim.

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They blame other people.

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Or themselves.

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They can’t achieve what someone else has.

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Right?

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Wrong.

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Your life is up to you.

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It’s your choice.

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It’s the culmination of your choices up till now.

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Have you made good choices?

Or bad ones?

Even if you’ve made bad ones, all good.

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You can turn it around.

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It’s possible.

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The reason I love neuroplasticity.

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For many centuries, people thought the brain was fixed.

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That once you become an adult, the brain is what it is.

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There’s no changing it.

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But that’s wrong.

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The brain can change.

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Even when you’re late in adulthood.

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Your brain’s wiring system can literally be actively reshaped.

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At any time.

Is it hard?

Yes.

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Of course.

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But doing anything is hard.

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Changing any habit is hard.

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Most people are stuck.

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Stuck in their habits.

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Stuck in their ways.

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Stuck in their mind.

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Stuck in their circumstances.

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But you do have choice.

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You have autonomy.

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You do have agency over your own life.

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No one else can help you change.

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Ultimately, it has to be you.

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So this is the ultimate test.

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The ultimate test of life.

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Did you get what you want out of life?

Are you happy with your life?

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Did you choose the right partner?

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Choose the right career?

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Choose the right path?

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And if you didn’t, did you switch?

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Because one day you will be on your deathbed.

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Hopefully with a lot of people around you who love you.

And you will think.

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You will reflect on the choices you made in your life.

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Did you become who you always thought you could be?

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Or did you let life pass you by?

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I’m reminded of all of this because of this tweet.

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It’s an interview with Steve Kerr, a man who’s won too many NBA titles to count, both as a player and a coach.

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It’s him talking about Roger Federer, one of the greatest tennis players ever.

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Roger told the Warriors the secret to his sustained success wasn’t outworking everyone.

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It was building a life around his craft that he never wanted to escape from.

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His schedule was simple.

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Spend time with his wife.

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Spend time with his kids.

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Work on what he did best.

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He loves tennis.

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He loves his family.

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He loves his life.

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He is not outworking everybody every day, banging his head against the wall, thinking he’s going to be better than everyone.

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He’s allowing his natural ability to shine through with a solid work ethic, a great family life and peace at home.

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It’s perspective.

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It’s joy.

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It’s passion.

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It’s awareness that we are all lucky.

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The secret to a great life is daily rituals and experiencing life with those you love, doing something you love.

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That’s always been the goal.

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Be the best person you can be in all aspects of your life.

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Finding a great job you’re excited about.

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Finding the right partner.

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Building a family.

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Building great relationships.

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Having peace at home.

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And waking up every day excited to be alive.

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Please go build it for yourself.

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No one is coming to save you.

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The sooner you learn that, the better off you’ll be.

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Build a life you never run away from.

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