The most important decision of your life

The most important decision of your life:

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The most important decision of your life.

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Who you marry.

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Not what you do.

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Or where you work.

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Or who your friends are.

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All of these are extremely important.

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But who you marry is the single most important decision you’ll ever make.

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Pick the right partner and watch your life be exponentially better.

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Pick the wrong one and the life you envisioned will blow up in front of you.

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Charlie Munger told me this.

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Smart man that guy.

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More people should spend time learning and listening to that guy.

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A genius who blessed this earth with almost a century of life.

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He said it.

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The person you marry is the most important thing you’ll ever do.

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Find someone who fits you.

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Who likes you.

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But who also pushes you.

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Who inspires you.

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Who supports you.

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Who’s there for you.

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Someone you want to share secrets with.

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Someone you want to share experiences with.

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Someone you want to share your life with.

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That decision is everything.

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Can’t take it for granted.

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You really need to know someone.

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Know how they were brought up.

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Know their family.

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Know their friends.

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Know what they like and don’t like.

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Know how they think.

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You can’t figure that out immediately.

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It takes time.

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It’s watching them interact in the world.

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It takes deep conversations.

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Not just what your favourite colour is.

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But what are your dreams?

Where do you want to go?

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What you do you want to become?

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How do you see your life in the future?

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What makes you happy?

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What are you still figuring out?

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What have you always struggled with?

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What makes you feel insecure?

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Learning the answers to all of these is paramount.

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It’s everything.

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If you want to build a life with someone, you need to understand these.

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And if you don’t, there should at least be willingness to learn.

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But also a willingness to be open.

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To share.

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To be vulnerable.

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To trust.

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To let go of your secrets.

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You need that as well.

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Relationships are a two-way street.

It takes two to tango.

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If one person wants to do all of this and the other person is not open to it, it won’t work.

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Better to know that upfront than waste years of your life being with the wrong person.

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Choosing the wrong person will derail your life.

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Don’t let it happen to you.

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Don’t screw up the most important decision of your life.

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