This game of hell that never ends

Online dating, people being reduced to swipes and being authentically you
Nov 21, 2022
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This game of hell that never ends:

This game of hell that never ends.

Online dating.

Letting your thumb decide your future partner based on a few pictures and lines.

It’s become so easy.

People have been reduced to swipes on a phone.

Once you’re in it, it becomes a game.

A never ending game hoping you can get out of and find the right person.

But it’s tiring.

It’s frustrating.

It’s not fun.

Yet these days, you almost have to go through it.

Unless you find your significant other when you’re younger in school and university, it becomes harder to meet people.

It becomes based on your ability to text.

Many people have great text personalities and are duds in person.


Others are such interesting people and text like plebs.

This is the difficult thing I’ve had to learn.

As a guy, you are competing with tons of dudes so you have to add something different.

You have to add some personality.

Worse comes to worst, just ask questions.

Look at their profile and ask them about something in it.

Most girls still won’t respond, but some will.

Even then, it’s so easy to drop it - to just leave someone on read.

Ghosting has become common because it’s so easy.

It’s so easy to just turn it off and leave someone.

What’s the solution?

How are we going to get people who are more compatible to meet each other?

This online dating thing doesn’t feel like it’s the answer.

I like what the app ‘Thursday’ is doing.

Building real events with just single people.

We need to find people who like doing things we like.

This is what many dating advisors recommend but I do agree with it.

Figure out what you like, do those things and you’ll find people that like the same.

Focus on you rather than what other people think of you.

Go all into your weird hobbies and interests.

Don’t pretend to be something you’re not.

We all do with social media but add your personality.

Be authentically you, not the fake you you’re trying to show the world.

You’ll repel most people but in doing that, you’ll find your people.

You’ll find your one.

Or at least that’s what I’m telling myself.

I just wanna get out of this game of hell that never ends - online dating.

'Keep Going You're Doing Great'

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