What do I want?

What do I want?

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What do I want?

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Let’s see.

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It was posed to me this week.

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Then I saw a framework.

Questions to ask to see what you want in a relationship.

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What do you want in a partner?

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I wrote a poem about it.

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But it’s really to answer these 4 questions.

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1. Can you tell her everything in your heart?
2. Is she kind?
3. Does she help you become the best version of yourself?
4. Can you imagine her as the mother of your children?

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The answer to all of those needs to be yes.

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But there are a few extra.

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What don’t you want in a partner?

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I don’t want someone lazy.

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Someone rude.

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Someone obnoxious.

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Someone arrogant.

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Someone who only thinks about themselves.

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Someone who doesn’t take care of themselves.

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Someone who’s too entitled.

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Someone who doesn’t care about family.

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Someone who doesn’t like being outside of their comfort zone.

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Someone who has no passions.

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Someone who wastes too much time on her phone.

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Someone who’s not curious.

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Someone who’s not passionate.

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Someone who doesn’t like travel.

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Someone who doesn’t want kids.

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What are your non-negotiables?

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Has to be kind.

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Honest.

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Has integrity.

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Has empathy.

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Cares about family.

Cares about other people.

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Kind heart.

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Wants to be a mom.

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Wants to build a great life.

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Wants to travel.

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Wants to experience all life has to offer.

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Someone who inspires me.

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Pushes me to be better.

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Someone who cares about me.

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Do you know your own red flags?

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Someone rude.

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Someone who’s rude to wait staff.

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Someone who’s rude to others.

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Someone who doesn’t care about family.

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Someone who’s not curious.

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Someone who can’t hold a conversation.

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Someone who doesn’t have interests.

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Someone boring.

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Someone who only talks about themselves.

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Someone who’s manipulative.

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Someone who gaslights.

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Someone who puts others down.

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What didn’t work in your past relationships?

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Haven’t had a long enough one to really know.

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Been too focused on myself and the life I want to build.

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Got here on my own.

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But to get to the next level, I need someone.

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I need support.

I can’t do it alone.

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And it’s not worth it.

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What’s the point in conquering the world if you have no one to share it with?

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I know I’ve been too distant.

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I’ve been avoidant.

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I’ve shown avoidance tendencies where the first sign I see it not working or no future, I stop.

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Maybe that’s just because of the people I met.

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Maybe that’s me.

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What role did you play in that?

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Some of it for sure.

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But also never felt totally comfortable around anyone.

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Felt nervous or on edge.

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Always felt like they would go away.

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Or that they didn’t fit what I wanted.

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Are you truly ready for a relationship or are you just lonely?

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I’m ready.

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I’ve done the work.

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I’ve reflected more than most will in their entire life.

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I want to build something great.

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I want someone who wants to do that.

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Now’s the time to find that person.

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So yes.

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Let’s go.

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