You're marrying the family

You’re marrying the family:

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You’re marrying the family.

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When couples get together, they think it’s just going to be them.

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You and your partner.

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Right?

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No.

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You're marrying the family.

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You’re marrying the person, the people they have around them and all the problems that come with them.

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All of the issues and deep-seated childhood problems they didn’t want to solve.

That’s who you’re marrying.

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It looks all glitz and glam when you get married.

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Everyone’s happy.

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Everyone’s putting on the mask showing the rest of the world that all is going well.

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But what happens when that goes?

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What happens when you get back to real life?

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There’s no pretending anymore.

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There’s no hiding.

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You have nowhere to go.

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Most people don’t realize it.

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You’re not marrying an individual.

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You’re marrying their past, their friends, their parents, their environment, their habits, their tendencies, their passions, and their emotions.

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You’re marrying all of that.

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And that will change.

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People grow.

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Life happens.

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At 40, we’re not who we were at 25.

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We’ve changed.

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Yet if we’re with someone through better or worse, we forget that they change.

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We all do.

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But people forget, it’s not just them changing.

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It’s everyone around them changing as well.

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Remember, you’re marrying all of the family.

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Especially in Indian culture.

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Most Indian families are massive.

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They have their own drama, like all families do, but there are many more people.

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Indians are their own breed.

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So, no matter who you choose to marry, an Indian or not, never forget - you are never just marrying the person.

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You’re marrying the family.

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