To love and be loved

To love and be loved:

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To love and be loved.

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The goal.

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The goal for everyone.

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To find something you love.

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Some career you love.

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Some hobby you love.

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Someone you love.

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But not only to love that thing.

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Or that person.

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But to love yourself.

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To allow yourself to be loved.

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By you.

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But also by others.

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This is the whole goal.

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The whole point of life.

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To be present.

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To enjoy being around people you love.

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And if you don’t have people you love, find them.

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Search for them.

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But also wait.

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Let them come to you.

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Do the things that you love.

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And watch yourself find other people who also love those things.

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Dating is hard right now.

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Maybe it’s always been hard.

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But these days especially.

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The post-dating-app world has screwed everyone up.

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Social media has distorted peoples’ ideas of what it means to love.

What it means to be a good partner.

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What it means to live a good life.

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We think it’s what we see on Instagram.

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But it’s not.

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Far from it.

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We think we’d all be happy if we had the cars, the money and the girls.

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But you won’t.

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Jim Carrey said it best: ‘I think everyone should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that’s not the answer.’

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Things aren’t the answer to happiness.

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The pursuit of them is.

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But also make sure you’re pursuing the right things.

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The pursuit of money is a losing one.

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You will never have enough.

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And if you chase it too much, you’ll push everyone else around you out of the way.

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There are a lot of really unhappy rich people.

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A lot.

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Because they chased money instead of relationships.

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Relationships are it.

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Good-quality relationships are the secret to it all.

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The longest study on happiness told us this.

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Harvard spent 80 years studying people throughout their lives and found that the number 1 predictor of happiness is the quality of their relationships.

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Their friends.

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Their family.

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Their spouse.

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That’s the key.

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Do you have good people around you?

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If so, you’re crushing it.

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If not, go find them.

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Sometimes it’s your family.

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Other times it’s not.

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But don’t ever think that you can do this life alone.

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One of the best takeaways from the recent Spider-Man.

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Great movie btw.

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Thought it was going to be a sappy kids' movie.

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But had a lot of good lessons.

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One of them is this.

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Spider-Man can’t do it all alone.

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He could never do it alone.

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He lost his powers because he was alone.

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He couldn’t be his best self.

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He needed people around him.

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He needed to love.

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And be loved.

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To let his friends be his friends.

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To have people supporting him.

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And people who could support him.

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I’ve been listening to the Telepathy tapes since they started.

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Incredible.

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Best podcast of all time that everyone should listen to.

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Truly paradigm-shifting content that will make you rethink everything.

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But one of the things they always come back to is this.

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All of the autistic non-speaking individuals who can read minds and go to different realms say the same thing.

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It’s about love.

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All of this.

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This reality.

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This life.

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To love.

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And be loved.

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So go find it.

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Go chase it.

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You will suffer along the way.

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But it’s so worth it.

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One of my conclusions from a recent breakup.

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Thought we had something.

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Girl didn’t feel the same way.

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But the feelings I had in the pursuit of her made me realize that the journey to find love is worth it.

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It’s so worth it.

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Doesn’t mean it will be easy.

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Especially in this dating app day and age.

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But it will be worth it.

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And one day I’ll be there with the girl I love, sitting around my family, thinking this is it.

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This is everything.

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This is the point of life.

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To love and be loved.

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