Trust your gut

Trust your gut:

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Trust your gut.

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We hear this advice as kids.

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All the time.

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Trust your gut.

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But what does that mean?

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Your stomach?

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Your intestines?

Your abs?

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What are you trusting?

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But it’s something else.

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It’s this feeling.

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This belief.

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This energy.

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This vibe.

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Just something.

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And when your gut tells you something is off, trust it.

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Happened this week.

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A good reminder.

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Was in Europe for a quick trip with my friends and for a wedding.

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Great trip.

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Tons of fun.

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But just before that, I started seeing this girl.

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3 dates.

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All went really well.

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Or so I thought.

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First date was drinks at 2 separate bars.

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Went for almost 4 hours.

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Second date was dinner, a pub quiz, then split a bottle of wine at a nice wine bar before walking her back to her place.

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Lasted 6.5 hours.

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Again, thought things were going well.

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Then the last one.

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Went for happy hour drinks and brought her back to my place, where I made dinner and we split a few bottles of wine.

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She didn’t leave till 2.

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Conversation flowed.

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Talked a lot about life.

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And family.

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And goals.

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And our fears.

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And what we want.

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Real deep conversations.

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Or so I thought.

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After the last date, the texting started drying up.

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It became less common.

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Less interested in my life.

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Then I went away for a week.

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And it stopped.

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Nothing.

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Nada.

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For days.

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5 days to be exact.

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And I knew.

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I had a feeling.

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Something was not right.

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Something was off.

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She used the excuse of her cousins being in town.

But that’s bullshit.

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No one is too busy to check their phone and respond to a message from people close to them that they care about.

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If they don’t respond, they don’t care.

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She showed me I wasn’t a priority.

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I tried to be present and focus on the trip while I was there, but there was always something lingering in the background.

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‘Why hasn’t she texted?’

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‘What’s going on?’

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Turns out I was right.

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Got back a few days ago, wanted to organize a 4th date and I got the text.

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It’s not you.

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It’s me.

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I don’t feel anything romantically.

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That’s it.

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Done.

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Just like that.

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Now I’ve had this happen in the past.

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But this one felt different.

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Way different.

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Different in that I could actually see this girl be part of my future.

Had a lot of positive qualities about her.

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Carried herself well.

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Confident.

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Smart.

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But she didn’t feel it.

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Didn’t feel whatever romantic connection she wanted to feel.

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So we’re done.

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Over.

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And yet my gut told me.

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It told me last week.

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Something was off.

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And I was right.

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I’ve had this happen in the past.

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Situations I knew were off.

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Vibes I knew were off.

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And I didn’t trust it.

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I kept going.

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But here’s the thing.

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Your gut will never lie to you.

That feeling.

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That sense.

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That knowledge that something doesn’t feel right.

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Trust it.

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Always trust it.

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It’s not lying.

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It’s you.

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Or god.

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Telling you something is wrong.

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Don’t keep pursuing that.

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Be careful.

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Be patient.

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Stay vigilant.

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Because you’ll see.

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It wasn’t meant to be.

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Not meant to happen.

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Especially with relationships.

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If you feel off about a person, you’re probably right.

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I knew something was up last week, and I was right.

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Cool.

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Her loss.

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I’m living a great life.

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Doing great things.

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Proud of where I am.

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Proud of how far I’ve come.

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Excited about where I’m going.

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If you don’t want to be a part of that, no problem.

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Have a nice life.

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So next time, I need to remind myself.

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Trust your gut.

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Trust your intuition.

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Trust that voice in your head telling you something is off.

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Listen.

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Because god is speaking to you.

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Trust your gut.

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