They have to be yours

They have to be yours:

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They have to be yours.

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Your goals.

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They have to be what you want.

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Not anyone else.

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Why do you want what you want?

Why?

Ask yourself that.

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Stop and think.

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Why?

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Do you want something because you want it?

Or is it because your parents want it for you?

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Or because your friends want it?

Or because all the people you look up to have it?

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Why do you want what you want?

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What has made you decide your goals in life?

It’s important to ask that question.

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You may end up arriving at the same conclusion I did.

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And Renee Girard did.

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A famous French philosopher in the last century.

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The concept of mimetic desire.

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We want the things we want because other people want them.

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We look to those around us for our desires.

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Why do I want what I want?

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My parents.

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My grandparents.

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My role models.

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I want what they want.

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A family.

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Financial success.

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Education.

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Finding a good person.

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Enjoying experiences.

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Enjoying adventure.

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Enjoying my life.

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That’s why I want what I want.

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I only learned to play golf because of my dad.

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Now I love it.

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My desire in the summer is to always be on a golf course if I can.

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That didn’t come from me.

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It came from the people around me.

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So figure out for you, why do you want what you want?

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There’s nothing innately wrong with any of your desires.

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But they have to be yours.

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You have to internalize them.

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They have to be because you want them.

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Not anyone else.

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We’re all brainwashed by our parents and environment from when we’re growing up.

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So it’s important to ask yourself, why do you want what you want?

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What makes you really want those things?

Once you know, then figure out what game you’re playing.

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Are you playing the money game?

Status game?

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Family game?

Power game?

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Ego game?

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Business game?

What game are you playing?

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Are you playing the one you want?

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Or someone else pressured you into?

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My goals were originally someone else’s.

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My parents.

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I wanted to be a doctor for them.

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Was it because I really wanted to be a doctor?

Not really.

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It was something I saw people around me achieve who were respected and earned good money.

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Plus you could use your job to help people be better.

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Sounded like a good idea in theory.

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And I’m really glad I did it.

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But that desire wasn’t mine.

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It was my parents.

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In the last few years, my desires have become mine.

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I’m deciding I want them and I will go after them.

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That’s what you should do.

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Figure out which ones are yours and which ones are other peoples.

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Focus on the ones you want.

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Drop the other ones.

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Because remember.

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You only get one life.

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It’s yours.

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Why are you spending your time living someone else’s?

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And not your own.

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Remember - your goals have to be yours.

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